One of the most important things a person should do when they’re thinking about a divorce or going through the divorce process, is getting a good counselor. We are all not trained counselors when it comes to your mental and emotional health and what you’re going through is one of the most difficult things that that you’re ever going to go through. From the research that I’ve done over the years, I found divorce to be right up there with the trauma that you go through whenever you are experiencing the death of a close family member. That’s how significant it is. It’s going to vary from person to person, but generally I think that’s the case. You should really get a good counselor because your attorney is not a counselor. You’re still going to get a lot of benefits of going and talking with a counselor. It’s important to remember that seeking help is not a sign of weakness. That’s a very common misconception about going to see a counselor. It’s actually a sign that you’re actually putting your priorities first and that you’re doing things that are going to help you in the long term. I would recommend that you find a really good counselor. You might even want to go and see at least a couple of counselors to build some rapport and find somebody that you’re comfortable with.
One of the benefits of having a counselor to talk to is you’re not going to have to worry about them going and blabbing about what’s going on in your divorce case. The other benefit to it is that it’s going to help you gain the skills that you need when it comes to managing a super stressful time in your life. There’s going to be some collateral benefits such as being able to deal with what you’re going through when it comes to the current relationships with your children. It’s going to help you deal with everything that you’re going through when it comes to the court process. I think the other benefit is that it’s going to help you keep everything in perspective. One of the most important things you need to do when going through a divorce is to make sure you’re keeping a proper perspective on everything, whether it’s finances, whether it’s your long term needs versus your short term needs. All of these things are very important when it comes to a divorce. To summarize everything for you, it’s very important that you go and at least talk with a counselor prior to or during the divorce process. This will help you all the way around.